Today is the day before my birthday and my husband surprised me by taking the day off from work. So, this will be quick, short, and sweet.
I’m not comfortable giving praise and I am definitely uncomfortable receiving praise. When someone compliments me, I get flustered. I do not like attention upon me. And, my brain turns into mush. Words of encouragement I can handle. But commendation? Heck no. I am not deserving of it all. At least, that is how I feel.
I think this is the reason why I am not comfortable praising others. It makes me feel all awkward and clumsy in my efforts. I just don’t handle it well. Congratulations, such as graduations and weddings, is about the only thing I am good at doing. It’s easy. And, expected. But, to spontaneously or even plan to say “you did good” just makes me feel weird.
What if they take it the wrong way? I’m proud of their accomplishments. I wish I could convey it appropriately. I just do not know how.
The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.
~ Norman Vincent Peale ~